I Know You’re Dead, But I Still Love You
Written 13 years after the passing of his wife Vickie, this memoir and self-help book from Bruce Keener provides a long-term view of grief and how it transitions from almost unbearable to a lesser emptiness to an eventual acceptance and peace.
What sets this book apart from most grief books is that it gives you a number of insights on how to deal with your grief, as well as discussions of mistakes the author made along the way, giving you insight on what to look out for. As the author notes in the introduction: “I am hoping that you can read about my experiences and say, ‘I can identify with what Keener went through, and here are some things I can do to help myself.” Or even, “Well at least I’m not as screwed up as Bruce Keener. Since he survived, I can.’”
The author also discusses his loss of faith and half of who he was, how he turned to two scientific theories (one by Einstein) to give him some “comfort” that his wife still exists (in some sense), and how he recovered his faith and himself.
Not only will you benefit from this book, you will want your friends to read it, too, because it will help them understand some of what you are going through and haven’t been able to put into words.
Contact Bruce at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have questions.
Note that a sample chapter (the intro) of the ebook is provided here.